What happens when someone tells you NO. Most of us cannot bear to hear the word let alone say it. Even when paired with a combination of words, the word no seems difficult to inhale: no thank you, no more, no not right now, and no I am not interested. They are deafening to the ears and even though they are uttered in a mild tone, the blow is substantial. I know when I hear the word no I experience a brief period of disappointment and depending on the circumstances hurt. However, the next emotion I feel is usually relief. I am relieved that the door has been closed officially and now I am free to explore other options. It doesn’t happen very often (yes, I am spoiled), but when it does I must remain optimistic and understand that perhaps there is a greater plan at work and that there is indeed something better in store. The word no should be respected and even admired at times. The person saying no usually has drawn from a certain amount of courage because often times it does not come easy. I know that when I tell someone no, it is often for their own good and mine. It is the best option at the time and must be respected. It is interesting that the word no is universal; several languages use the same word and it means the same thing: a response used as a refusal, or to disagree to something. Let’s practice saying it: 1,2,3…..NO. Whew, I feel better already.

Simply yet your yes mean yes and your no mean no, anything else comes from the evil one.

Matthew 5:37 (NIV)

Published by Eraina Ferguson

Wife, Mom, and Writer. Currently penning a memoir about raising my special needs daughter while earning three academic degrees.

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